How many times have you set a goal?
How many of those goals have you accomplished?
For those that went unaccomplished do you know why?
It’s time we got real with our goals and our intentions behind them. It’s great to have goals, really it’s amazing. Goals show us that we are working towards something, that we see where we can improve/change.
They give us purpose, or at least give our purpose some direction. Some of them are personal, some are professional but regardless they are amazing to have. Wouldn’t you agree?
As amazing as they are we don’t always accomplish the goals that we set for ourselves. We talked about this a bit in Resolution Time.
You’re probably thinking that I’m going to say that all goals could be accomplished...and while that’s true that all goals could be accomplished, it’s not realistic.
Sometimes when we set a goal and have good intentions to reach it, our lives get set in a different direction and that goal no longer lines up with our lives.
For example, if you set a goal around your job and later received a promotion, or an opportunity that results in a complete change in your career. That goal is likely to change and therefore be one of the goals that went “unaccomplished”.
But what about the other unaccomplished goals? Why don’t we reach the end with them?
In just a couple of short days we will be saying goodbye to 2019 and hello to a brand new decade! For some of us this decade has been great. However for others there may have been quite a few balls dropped...pun intended.
When we end the year with a list of things we wish we had gotten done, that we plan to get done etc., we create resolutions. Now I’m more of a goals girl myself, I’ve personally never set a resolution.
The reason I’ve avoided resolutions is because they never seem to get done. I would hear year after year about what someone was going to do in the new year and then shortly after they completely forget about it.
According to this study from 2016 less than half of our resolutions last more than 6 months!
I wasn’t shocked at all by this, and if you’re being honest with yourself you probably aren’t either. There’s even a”national holiday” in January dedicated to giving up on your resolutions.
It’s basically become tradition to abandon the things that we set out to do. Even when we set out to do them with the greatest of intentions.
The problem with that is we create an unaccountable society.
“Where did the time go?”
We’ve all said something like this or heard it said to us before. Time moves to the beat of its own drum. There’s nothing we can do to stop it or slow it down it just keeps moving even when we aren’t. So are we doomed to this feeling of not having enough time or wanting more? Is there really a such thing as time management?
The answer to both of those questions is NO! No we aren’t doomed to feeling like we don’t have enough time but there also isn’t a such thing as time management.
I know that sounds like a contradiction but stick with me here, there’s a solution and a way to make it all make sense.
First let me get into the whole, “no such thing as time management” and the point of this article. Time itself cannot be managed, there’s nothing we can do to change it. To manage something would mean that you have some sort of influence on it and that’s just simply not the case when it comes to time.
However you do have influence over yourself! You are the biggest factor in your own life, and the only one who can really make a difference in it. So it’s not really time management as much as it is self discipline.
We often waste time doing things that feel good rather than things that will give us the results in the long run. Simply we are undisciplined, so time seems to fly past us with no real progress being made.
Yes, it's difficult to manage ourselves, as we’ve been taught to have someone else do it for us. From parents, to teachers to bosses we’re never really taught to discipline ourselves, and that makes “time management” difficult.
But it doesn’t have to be…
It can actually be quite simple to have productive days rather than busy days leaving you feeling worn out and unaccomplished. But first, you have to be willing to change your mentality, put in the work, and be consistent with the practice of disciplining yourself.
Are you ready?
Alena Michelle is an accountability coach and mompreneur. Becoming a mother opened her eyes to the sad reality that many mothers loose their identities in motherhood. Throughout her own journey to find herself Alena learned that making herself a priority helped her to become a better mother to her daughter and a better wife to her husband.