In just a couple of short days we will be saying goodbye to 2019 and hello to a brand new decade! For some of us this decade has been great. However for others there may have been quite a few balls dropped...pun intended.
When we end the year with a list of things we wish we had gotten done, that we plan to get done etc., we create resolutions. Now I’m more of a goals girl myself, I’ve personally never set a resolution.
The reason I’ve avoided resolutions is because they never seem to get done. I would hear year after year about what someone was going to do in the new year and then shortly after they completely forget about it.
According to this study from 2016 less than half of our resolutions last more than 6 months!
I wasn’t shocked at all by this, and if you’re being honest with yourself you probably aren’t either. There’s even a”national holiday” in January dedicated to giving up on your resolutions.
It’s basically become tradition to abandon the things that we set out to do. Even when we set out to do them with the greatest of intentions.
The problem with that is we create an unaccountable society.
With all of that said, I’m not telling you not to set resolutions. Essentially they are goals, they just tend to be set at the beginning of the year. (Although you can set a resolution at any point).
If you’re serious about whatever it is you’re setting out to do...you must be since you’ve read this far..it’s pretty important to understand why we made quitting on ourselves the norm. There are several reasons; fear, lack of motivation, lack of support, frustration, ignorance and my absolute favorite...not having enough time.
I really love it when I hear that famous line “I don’t have time”
My response “Yes you do, what you don’t have is discipline.”
I know people don’t like to hear or accept it but we all, literally, have the same amount of time in the day. Sure we have different sets of responsibilities and therefore our time can be divided up differently. However, I’ve learned that we make time for what’s truly important to us or that we are comfortable with.
Comfort zones are where dreams go to die. Before you make your resolution(s) ask if you’re able/willing to remove yourself from your comfort zone? Are you really ready to dedicate your time and energy to it?
If you answered yes to both of those questions, read on. If you weren’t sure or said no, maybe you should take some time to reflect on what resolution you should be setting.
There are a number of ways to “make time” for your resolutions, here are a few I have found that help;
As you’re working on making time for the resolutions you set, remember that it’s consistency that makes the difference. Know what the rewards of following through with your resolution are. In contrast also know what the consequences are if you don’t.
More than half of the resolutions set don’t get accomplished and end up forgotten. You don’t have to succumb to the norm of society you can rise above it. Set a valuable resolution and be consistent in working on it. Let’s make 2020 a year of accomplishments rather than a year of intent.
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Alena Michelle is an accountability coach and mompreneur. Becoming a mother opened her eyes to the sad reality that many mothers loose their identities in motherhood. Throughout her own journey to find herself Alena learned that making herself a priority helped her to become a better mother to her daughter and a better wife to her husband.